10.21.2012

一人一半,才是(伴)


文╱王偉忠

陶子重義氣,她要我做什麼,我就做什麼。她要我談一談婚姻感情,就談吧!反正我也到了開口說話會帶點道理,但年輕人聽不進去的年齡。

我跟太太戀愛八年結婚,婚後十七年,總共認識了二十五年。這麼長的時間日夜相伴,身旁偶爾沒有她,感覺很爽,倘若此後一輩子沒有她,萬萬不可。

像前一陣子看到一則意見調查,問年輕女孩,家人、父母、孩子、老公與事業,如果硬要抉擇,會先放棄哪個?

女孩選了選,先放棄了事業,然後家人、父母,剩下老公與孩子難以抉擇,最後選擇放棄孩子、留下老公,理由是家人、父母、孩子最終都會離開身邊,但老公會是終身伴侶。很殘酷、但也很真實。

中國字的寓意深遠,「伴」,就是一人一半,湊在一起才完整。

現今許多人適婚卻不婚,老人家看了奇怪,過去從沒發生過類似狀況。這現象代表五、六十年來沒有戰亂、年輕人長大過程中享有家庭溫暖與親情支援,因此認為單 身也能過得很好,不論敗犬或是單身貴族,不覺得非要個伴,是歷史上首度可以一個人過日子的平安歲月。衰老未至,沒有歲月的壓力,等年齡到了,開始覺得孤 獨、害怕孤獨,想找個人分享,還是需要個伴。

若要進入婚姻,套一句不負責任的老生常談,要靠緣份,除了緣份以及感性的感覺,還要理性的選擇。婚姻確實需要理性,如果女兒論及婚嫁,我一定要求要看看對方家庭,什麼樣的家庭會養出什麼樣的孩子,當然,也有破碎家庭的孩子更努力維繫自己的幸福家庭,但一定要仔細觀察。

而另一個老生常談就是婚姻需要兩個人有相同的價值觀,但這不是說「我喜歡的你一定要喜歡」,而是「我不討厭你喜歡的」,就可以了,兩人可妥協,可退讓,願意試著接觸自己本來討厭的,看看是否真那麼不能接受,有這樣願意妥協的心情,比較容易維繫感情。

而婚姻與愛情最大的不同,在於願不願意改變。願意為了對方改變自己,是真愛,從頭到尾都不想改變自己,這段感情充其量只是對方愛你。

戀愛是短暫的交會後很想在一起而開始,很想閃的結束。開始時乾柴烈火,講究原汁原味,眼前的他什麼都好,是全天下最酷的、最美的,不需要改,但等到愛情疲了,才發現這人酷到不近人情、美得過於臭美、連刺青的位置不對,趕緊推給個性不合閃人。因此戀愛講究的是如何好聚好散

進入婚姻,當然還是會有許多衝突,學習重點是「相處的藝術」。男生該學的第一課就是上廁所必須掀馬桶蓋,一開始改變很不習慣,後來融入身體,像吃飯喝水一樣自然。

但最近老婆說不只要掀蓋子,尿完還希望我拿衛生紙擦擦馬桶周圍留下來的「遺跡」,按照過去的脾氣,一定就「老子愛….」,但現在的我會聽太太的意見,因為「愛」字裡有個心,不是光用腦想著該送什麼禮物給她,要用心。

太太也改變不少,她不喜歡戶外活動,婚前知道我愛潛水、跟著背起十幾公斤重的空氣瓶跳進海底求生,這麼愛美的她怕晒黑、塗防晒油塗滿臉,一回頭、嚇一跳,怎麼來了個歌仔戲花旦跟我一起玩。

婚後我又想潛水,她就說「不必了」,理由是家裡有孩子,不宜從事太危險的活動。

以前一個人在台北發展,要自己照顧自己,還要爭名奪利,不自私很難在短時間之內成就自己。結婚之後學著喊太太的媽媽「媽!」,有食物,不能先放進自己嘴 巴,要顧著妻小先吃。我開始懂得心疼與珍惜,因為太太很好,捨不得讓她不舒服、捨不得讓她傷心,這些捨不得讓我自然學會了讓、學會了愛,也自然的改變自 己,從自私變成大方。

婚姻的路是每天類似的風景,同樣的過程、淡淡的,要相處得好,真得靠慧根,所以找對象不能光想找個腿長奶大的辣妹,或是像金城武的帥哥,要找個讓自己想起他來心裡甜甜的,回頭一看,那人就在燈火闌珊處,這就是最好的對象。

而所謂另一半,也不是一開始就契合,是在修正中不斷的磨合,你多一點我少一點,像拼圖一樣拼在一起,才能一起過一輩子。

當然,歲月無情,人生最終還是分離。像我媽媽十六歲嫁給爸爸,相守相愛了一輩子,爸爸十多年前過世之後,媽媽真像少了一半,常凝望遠方,像爸爸就在天的那 一邊,令人感傷。但人生如果少了婚姻、少了隨之而來的酸甜苦辣生老病死,少了孩子延續家的價值與感情,真會少掉很多滋味。

8.29.2012

王品董事長戴勝益 給兒子的九點叮嚀



戴勝益的兒子戴東杰,今年初從美國回到台灣,並在兩個月前找到第一份工作。兒子初出社會,這位曾被票選為「夢幻企業家」的老闆,有哪些叮嚀要告訴兒子呢?

東杰:

先恭喜你當了爸爸,也讓我當了阿公!更恭喜的是,今年你從美國的大學畢業回國後,兩個月前找到你的第一份正式工作。你找到工作,我比你更興奮,因為「總是有一個開始了!」

其實,除了興奮,我還有一些愧疚,因為是我親自訂了王品的非親條款,才讓你和妹妹沒辦法進集團任職。但我很堅定地相信,過了這個陣痛期,你一定會更加成長。

記得你剛上班的第一個禮拜,就發了高燒,但我也不敢過分關心,更不敢要你請假休息,因為職場上有標準、有態度,更有責任;我能做的只有叮嚀你多喝水。雖然我捨不得,但這就是工作要磨練你的地方,愈是辛苦,你愈要告訴自己:「好啊!正是我濃縮學習的時候!」

你去美國的時候,我訂了二十二條守則,包括要你花光每個月的零用錢,把錢拿去開拓視野、廣交朋友。現在你出社會了,我綜合自己的工作經驗,也有九點叮嚀。


第一,會說也要會做。我看過太多年輕人眼高手低,這是對他最大的傷害。例如,履歷上把自己的經歷說得天花亂墜,但真的問他,又舉不出一個像樣的代表作。職場上,表達能力要強,但不能吹牛啊!我寧願你一開始「惦惦」(台語:安靜)就好。不過,過度謙虛也會顯得矯情,所以「說多少,做多少」最符合中庸之道。

第二,要累積「人緣」,但不要算計「人脈」。交朋友最重要的是「人緣」,不要動不動就講「人脈」,因為人脈只是「過水式」的友誼,太現實了!為人現實,絕對是你前途的殺手。

你將畢業時,曾在紐約以有限經費舉辦了一個「滷味Party」,從中午十二點吃到晚上十二點,來了一百多人,從這點我相信你已經懂得經營友誼。

第三,做人處世要輕物質、重情義。那種還沒賺到錢,就急著買包包、車子的人,最被人討厭。切記,事業與人生最重要的基礎,就是人緣,做事技巧與專業反而是其次,而有情有義的人,才會有人緣。

我看到很多優秀人才忙到睡在公司,這樣的人我是不用的,因為他連自己的小孩都很少回家看,那我怎麼知道在緊要關頭,他會不會為了功名利祿而背叛我。

第四,找到「永遠的事業」。與其把目標放在超越老爸,我更希望你立志創業,找到一個可以永遠經營的事業。

對我來說,最高境界就是「三業一體」,職業、事業和志業全部結合起來,這樣人生才會幸福。但創業急不來,我也是三十九歲才創業的啊!記得一句話:「成功不是第一個出發的,而是最後一個倒下的!」

第五,懂得衡量「犯錯」與「代價」間的關係。你記得你在高中時,向一個印度人網購了一台筆記型電腦,花了一千美元嗎?我明知那是假的,但還是借你新台幣五千元去買,果然你盼望了一個月都沒收到。

你後來抱怨我「幹麼不早說!」但我就是要你自己去試,讓你付出代價的錯誤,才能讓你成長。出了社會,我仍鼓勵你盡量嘗試,錯了也沒關係,只是這個代價不可以讓你「再回首已是百年身」!

第六,要學到成功的精髓,不要只學到成功的副作用。什麼是副作用?就是動不動就去品酒、跑趴。現在在台灣,你不需要這樣交際應酬,也能做好一個事業。看到一個人成功,你應該去挖掘他成功前的努力精神,而不要只看到人家成功後的浮華行為。

第七,學歷要永無止境。你大學畢業後,就決定回台工作,這是一個負責任的決定,但我還是鼓勵你念到博士。因為學無止境,而且很少有喜歡念書的人,會迷失在社會的大海中,就算迷失,也有智慧可以很快游回來。

像我差點成為中常會(王品集團的決策中心)裡學歷最低的,所以趕快到台大EMBA念書。而且,我還幫王品擬定一個十年計畫,希望十年後王品員工大學畢業者可以達到九成,這樣可以鼓勵他們終身學習,大家也可以變得更有氣質。

第八,不要踩著別人的肩膀往上爬。絕對不要這樣做,因為一定會被人看不起,影響你一輩子的聲譽!我寧願你自己努力,一步一步往上爬,我不在乎你打底期有多長,但一定要正當。

有多少壓力 就有多少潛力

第九,永遠過庶民的生活,不過貴族的生活。關於這點,其實我不太擔心,因為前幾年,我去美國參加你的公證結婚,看到你和妻子為了省錢,熬夜親手做捧花。我只是提醒你,未來也應該有這樣樸實的精神,例如你買車,就不可以買得比老爸貴。

但你應適度投資在人緣上,有人說每天省一杯咖啡錢拿去投資,十年可賺一百萬;我告訴你,如果這樣做,會拆掉與朋友互動的橋樑;哪天有工作機會,朋友怎麼會介紹給你,說不定新工作一個月就差一萬元了耶!

以上,是老爸傳授給你的職場經驗,也是人生智慧。

常常有年輕人問我,應該如何選工作?我的答案是,選一個「正派的公司」就好,不要去管它大或小,因為大公司可以學制度,小公司可以學獨立。但任何工作,都應該從基層磨練起,我很高興你現在的工作很基層,領的薪水也很基本,這代表你可以學習得很完整。

也許你會開始感受到壓力,但有多少壓力,就有多少潛力!跟我當初創業比起來,其實你算幸運的,至少你不用每天跑三點半,還必須還出一億六千萬元。但如果沒有這種急迫的壓力,我的潛力無法被激發,可能也就沒有今天的王品集團。

兒子啊!老爸這一連串叮嚀,不是要你跟我一樣,畢竟要超越我,有可能,但是會很累!我是希望你在不違背上述原則的情況下,勇敢、自信地走出一條路,最好也有一套自己的風格。

男人就是要有自己的事業,你已經邁出第一步了,加油!

資料來源:許峻瑋助教

8.27.2012

口舌上的贏,可能輸掉友情

文/戴晨志


語言,是「伴隨著溫度」的東西。當我們的說話幽默、生動,或言之有物、令人感動,則會使人感到「興奮、快樂或悸動」,我們體內的溫度,也隨之感到溫暖。相反地,若我們的言語索然無味、了無生趣,甚至令人厭惡,則聽者體內的溫度,也會隨之降低,而覺得心冷、顫然。

有個女孩說,她有個同事小莉,講話好討厭哦!譬如,這女孩說──我們幾個女同事一起逛街,在路邊買了一些紅豆餅,一邊走一邊吃,也請小莉吃,結果她說:「拜託,『邊走邊吃』這種沒水準的事,我才不做!」
到餐廳吃飯時,大家叫飲料喝,可是小莉說:「拜託,這種添加色素、糖水的果汁怎麼能喝?我們家都只喝現榨的原汁,其他的都不喝!」


還有一次,同事們談到某個公立小學辦得不錯,以後小孩可以到那邊唸書,小莉一聽,馬上說:「現在什麼時代了,還唸公立小學?我們家親戚都嘛是唸『私立雙語小學』,小孩以後長大,英語才會流利!」


溝通是一種技巧,也是藝術。有時咱們的原則是「對的」,出發點也是「良善的」,但是,如果口氣「太強勢」,或在公眾面前指責對方的不是,則聽起來都像是一種「無情的攻擊」,也徒增他人的反感。


曾有人提出所謂的「冰山理論」,來說明溝通與處事的道理。怎麼說呢?因為壯麗的冰山只有八分之一是「露出在海面上」,而另外八分之七是「沉在海底」,是「看不見的、不可捉摸的」;人也理當如此,要學習「含蓄、謙卑」,不能老「自以為是」、硬要「強出頭、教導別人」!古人也警惕吾人──「人之患,在好為人師」,更何況是以「我對你錯、你不該如此」的口吻來教訓別人。


溝通小箴言


有些人的講話,習慣性地「抬高自己、貶抑別人」;雖然人很漂亮,卻像是隻「全身長滿刺的孔雀」,當不同意別人的說話時,立刻張開滿刺的羽毛,來「防衛自己、刺傷別人」。


想想,一隻「全身是刺的美麗孔雀」,是不是很恐怖?


因此,我們必須學習──要避免「驕傲式的說話」,而且,炫耀的話要「多聽少說」,免得成為別人厭惡的對象!


西洋有句俗話說:「無心與人談話,不如保持沉默,以免無意中說出傷害人家的話。」


同時,一時口舌上的贏,卻可能會失去一輩子的「友情、愛情和親情」啊!

6.13.2012

太平湖


前几个星期,乘还没开始考试,就到朋友的家乡去找吃的,找玩的。嘻嘻。朋友就带我来到这个美丽的太平湖。它真的好像一幅画。根据维基:太平湖是我国第一个,也是最古老的湖滨公园。 由约10个湖泊组成的太平湖,是我国第一个,也是最古老的湖滨公园。它原是锡矿采掘殆尽后遗留下来的废矿湖,经过政府数十年来积极地发展,才成了今日融合自然美与人工美的名胜地。


-我被它的景色深深吸引而留连忘返-
-它仿佛就像一幅画-
有机会的话你应该到此一游 :)



愿您一切都能美梦成真

很久都没更新我的部落格。可能是最近比较忙呗,毕竟这是我的最后学期。忙着更朋友集会,忙着那里怕趴趴走,那里趴趴走,又要忙考试,忙功课。日子就着这样一天一天就过了。今天刚刚考完一张。下一张,也是就是最后一张是在23号。很快就要结束我的三年的大学生涯。真的有点不舍得跟朋友分离。幸好一路走来,都有你们的陪伴。谢谢我的course mates, 砂华,让我有个美好的回忆。


和朋友们一起办的Chess Gathering Night。这些都是我的course mates哦 :) 


女course mates


男course mates


我的姐妹~ 呵呵


曾经走过的日子不断的累积就让照片来做回忆的记事本吧记下曾经的年少曾经的快乐,悲伤曾经的您和我 。

在此 ,愿您一切都能美梦成真。

5.26.2012

Love Life


最近看了一部叫Love Life的记录片。心里有很多感触。不停的在想为什么有人会想要自杀?为什么这么容易就放弃生命?难道你不知道你有多幸福吗?有的人努力的想要活着,可是切没有这个机会。


希望你看了这部纪录片,会更尊重生命,熱愛生命,並且珍惜生命裡的每一分每一秒,Love Life! 因为谁都不知道自己能活多久,只要­活着一天,就要开开心心,时刻感谢主给予我的一切一切!相信不管发生什么事都有它自个的原因。因为当主关上一扇门时,他会在别处为你开启一扇窗。







5.04.2012

A Little Inspiration To Keep Rolling


Life is like a Cup of Coffee. Savor the coffee not the cups. The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.


你感恩了吗?

其实每天早上能够张开眼睛,都要感谢天父有允许我多活一天。


很喜欢这句话:生命不能用一年年来计算,生命是由一分一秒来计算。因为谁都无法说得上自己下一秒是否能继续活着。因为你所浪费的今天,是昨天死去的人仰望的明天;你所厌恶的现在,是未来的你回不去的曾经。


生命无常,愿我们感恩所拥有的每分每秒!

来听听这首歌:你在烦恼什么?当你难过得时候听听这首歌, 就会覺得生命還是很美好, 你是幸福的!~ 



4.12.2012

蓝莓芝士挞 Blueberry Cheese Tart


这是我的他最爱吃的蓝莓芝士挞。已经答应他很久要做给他吃。希望他会喜欢。嘻嘻~ 这个食谱又简单,材料又容易找到。而且吃起来特别有口感。第一次做,还不错吧?

食谱


取自: 人生加油站

塔皮
牛油 ~ 100g
糖粉 ~ 60g
全蛋 ~ 1

普通面粉 ~ 250g

做法:
1. 将牛油和糖粉打发。
2. 加入蛋拌匀。
3. 将面粉过筛加入,稍微拌匀成为面团。
4. 放入冰箱冷藏30分钟。
5. 将面团从冰箱取出,取一小块放入塔模,用拇指均匀的压在塔模内。
(小
型模: 8g / 中型模:15g / 普通模 : 25g)

6. 放入烤箱以160度烘烤8分钟半熟。(请依照个人烤箱调整)

3.15.2012

Get More Visitors To Your Blog

My visitor for today :) I got something I don't understand. Why I got visitor from Egypt? I don't have any friend from Egypt le. Haha. 

Well, lets talk about something serious :D Traffic is the reflection of success of a blog and blogger. A blog can be regarded as successful if it gets more number of your visitors. That the reason why every serious blogger is quite concern with their traffic and constantly tries to get more number of visitors. 

Do you know what is web traffic? According to Wikipedia, web traffic is the amount of data sent and received by visitors to a website. it is a large portion of internet traffic. This is determined by the number of visitors and the number of pages they visit. Therefore, traffic is a measure of site's activity usually reflected by the number of visitors and number of page views. 

From my little experience that i gains from the last few months, I would like to share my experience on how to get more visitors.

1. Join Innit 

I use Innit to attract readers from Nuffnang's blogging community.What you need to do is just sign in, upload and post your latest post in Nuffnang. Very easy! This really help but this service only available to Nuffnang Glitterati members only :)

2. Write good content articles

Good content is the key to attract visitors to your website. The better the content, the more visitors you will attract. Creating good content would be like telling your story and your way and bla bla bla. LOL~ But most of my content is nonsense one. Anyway, will try my very best :)


3. Comment in other blogs

Do you know that the more comment the higher google ranking. Therefore, you can have your social media friends to comment on your post. Besides that, leaving comment on other blogs. People will come back to you. You can include a link to your website on each comment, and some visitors will come through those links.

4. Keep blogging! 

The more content that you have, the more visitors you will have! Because blog readers love content and are constantly looking for new information and content. If you provide it, they will find it, and if you continue to provide it, they will continue to return time and time to read it. Content is one of the most important aspects of the blogging process. Remember! If you are not posting content, your visitors will never find you. 

Happy Blogging! :) 

Hope this will be useful for you :)

3.13.2012

Life is How You See





Bad can equal good and good can equal bad. It's all in how you look at it, ,make yours far from sad. Life is how you see if. No matter good or bad, if you find the good in things, the bad can't make you sad.

But if you do the opposite, when things don't go your way. You'll find yourself far from happy. Wishing for another day. Instead cherish all your days, all the good and bad, we must be happy for all we have, even if it makes us sad.

Thinks positive. No matter what happens, life still goes on and you have your loved one who always support you. You are a blessed one :) 



3.12.2012

Master's Degree VS Work Experience


Should I study master's degree or should I start working to gain work experience? 

Many students wonder what to do next after they finish their first cycle which is undergraduate studies. Yea, I am one of them but I have second solution which is doing both at the same time. But it would be very tiring because my weekend will be gone because I need to do part time study on Saturday and Sunday. My cousin told me that sometimes the class will be start  from 8am to 8pm ( Wow, 12 hours). Can I bear with it? 

According to some article, both master's degree and work experience is very important. For example, studying a master's degree can be a good option to gain fresh and advanced knowledge and even gain confidence within your area of expertise. At the other hand, work experience will provide skills that can't be taught in a classroom and that you will learn some things only through your own work experience.

It does sound very confusing though, but I still have to make a decision. Choose both or Choose either one. 


How about you? Are you having the same problem like me? :) 


3.10.2012

My Nuffnang Earning



This is a post regarding to my Nuffnang account. I am a new blogger although I started to blog since 2010, but I stop blogging from September 2010 until September 2011, almost one year probably because of my assignment. This is my last semester in doing my degree and you know la final semester more time for goyang kaki. LOL~ That the reason I start blogging again and at the same time can earn some pocket money. I am officially an active blogger in this month.

Seriously, I didn’t earn money from blogging but I still keep on blogging, because it has become a part of my life. Well, my current earning is 4.70. Still a long long journey to reach 50. Huh~I know it’s so little. But no worries, I am not depending on it to live with my life. 

Anyway, please support me, by either become my follower or drop some comment on my blog. Now I am so addicted with blogging, couldn't have myself to quit from blogging. Hmm~ keep the spirits going. Envy with those pro blogger who get so many buffered earning. When will be my turn? :( Some of the pro bloggers are very generous to share their own experience on how to get the buffered earning. So kind of them! :) Thanks you! 

A Picture Says a Thousand Words



"Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far it is possible to go." 

-T.S. Eliot-





3.09.2012

Meaning of Life


“People work too hard to figure out the meaning of their lives. Why me, why now. The truth is, sometimes things don't happen to you for a reason. Sometimes it's just about being in the right place at the right time for someone else.” ― Jodi Picoult, Second Glance 


Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.


You never know who these people may be, a roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a complete stranger. When you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.

Images from google

Little Boxy Pouch Tutorial

Hello :) I hope everyone is having a great weekend tomorrow! I learnt how to thread a machine when I was primary 5 and my first masterpiece was a barbie doll's dress. During the process of learning I break off the needle on the machine for uncounted times :( But, from the uncounted times i learnt how to sew! :)  From my humble opinion, the key to learning how to sew is practice! Well, this is a good one to start Little Boxy Pouch Tutorial! ( Click the link for tutorial) 


Have a nice day ahead! 

3.08.2012

DIY Paper Flower Bouquets

Thanks to Oh Happy Day I came across this lovely Paper Flower Cone Bouquets! What a good combination of ice cream and flowers, just can't stop admiring. These DIY Paper Flower Cone Bouquets are so much fun for any occasion.



Step 1: Using Jordan’s party hat template, scale down the size to fit your cone and draw it diagonally on the striped paper.
Step 2: Cut around the template.
Step 3: Wrap it around the cone and secure it with double-sided tape.


Step 4: For the flowers, I created a rose from my tutorial here.
Step 5: Glue gun the skewer to the inside of the flower and hold in place until dry.
Step 6: Cut out leaves from the green paper.
Step 7: Roll them around a pencil to create shape.
Step 8: Dab some glue onto the tip of the leaf and attach to the cone paper.
Step 9: Voila!



Images from their respective owner Oh Happy Day

3.07.2012

Cake Pops

Cakes used to be straightforward as they were round, square or rectangular, topped with butter icing and some colored icing flower.  As things get more complicated in this new century, cakes too, have become more complex. Now, we have cake popssss :) 

Here Kitty, Kitty! 

Spring Chickens..chirp chirp

Wedding Cake Pops...Love this :) 

It was during this period four years ago, that cake pop was born. It was hot stuff in the United States and as a big vote of confidence, even Starbucks began selling cake pops at its coffeehouses there.
Its origin, however, is unclear although many attribute it to the website bakerella.com where the blogger has been introducing her cake pops since January 2008.
A cake pop is essentially a cake on a lollipop stick, hence the name. 
Have a pop and find it yourself  and check out the video about cake pops :)


Images from Bakerella.com

3.06.2012

Earning money through Nuffnang

Nuffnang is Malaysia, Philippine, Singapore blog advertising company to let blogger earn money using their blog. Sign up to Nuffnang is very easy. Don’t need to qualify for any requirement, so it is a good start up for a new blogger. Once your site keep growing, you can make money with Nuffnang, or once your traffic is enough to apply for others premium advertising company, then just move.

Earning Money through,


Cost per impression ads (CPM), 


On Nuffnang, they called CPM as buffered earning. To get assigned for buffered earnings from Nuffnang is something subjective. Not all bloggers will be assigned with CPM. If your blog received CPM or buffered earning ads running on your blog, then your money can easily growing.


Cost per click (CPC), 


It is a normal type of ads runs on any advertisement company. The problem is, Nuffnang ads is really looks like a Nuffnang with the Nuffnang symbol sometimes takes a lot of spaces. People do not like to click on ads. It is the fact that all of bloggers know. That’s why most of bloggers would prefer CPM ads.


Cost per lead (CPL) or Cost per action


Nuffnang owns Churp Churp. A website selling deal just like Milk Deal or Groupon. Every sales make from the ads appeared on your blog will give you certain amount of money.


Advertorial post


This is the most lucrative advertising method on Nuffnang. Not all bloggers able to get offered with advertorial post. If you received that offers, four digits money surely be yours.


Good Luck in making money with Nuffnang. :)

3.05.2012

太能算计者,快乐与他绝缘


       第一,一个太能算计的人,通常也是一个事事计较的人。无论他表面上多么大方,他的内心深处都不会坦然。算计本身首先已经使人失掉了平静,掉在一事一物的纠缠里。而一个经常失去平静的人,一般都会引起较严重的焦虑症。一个常处在焦虑状态中的人,不但谈不上快乐,甚至是痛苦的。

  第二,爱算计的人在生活中,很难得到平衡和满足,反而会由于过多的算计引起对人对事的不满和愤恨,常与别人闹意见,分歧不断,内心充满了冲突。

  第三,爱算计的人,心胸常被堵塞,每天只能生活在具体的事物中不能自拔,习惯看眼前而不顾长远。更严重的是,世上千千万万事,爱算计者并不是只对某一件事情算计,而是对所有事都习惯于算计。太多的算计埋在心里,如此积累便是忧患。忧患中的人怎么会有好日子过?

  第四,太能算计的人,也是太想得到的人。而太想得到的人,很难轻松地生活。


文: 取自《一分钟的人生感悟》是突破逆境、鼓舞身心、感悟人生的最佳读本,从中获得无与伦比的感情体验,为你带来全新的人生感悟。

3.04.2012

尊重


我們在與別人交往中,

總是會有這樣的經歷,

一句不經意的讚美,

一句抱歉及對不起之類的話語,

總會使人感到心情舒暢。

道理很簡單,

從中人們感覺自己受到了別人的尊重。

受到別人尊重是每個人的願望。

想要得到他人的尊重,

首先應當尊重他人。

只有當你尊重了別人,

你才有可能從別人那裡得到應有的尊重。


摘自

圖:幾米繪本《我的錯都是大人的錯》

文:網絡轉載

3.03.2012

Free Printable: Build Your Own Cupcakes

Build Your Own Cupcakes


There are 10 pages total consisting of: cover page, the recipe, 8 different cupcakes, 8 different liners, 8 different frostings, 11 different cupcake toppers, and a sheet of name tags for your little baker :) :)



Spotted this gorgeous free printable cupcakes. Just print, cut out and mix and match to your cupcake-loving heart's content. Jessica, the creative mastermind behind blog Vol.25 has outdone herself with the sweetest free download: Build Your Own Cupcakes.

images from their respective owners

Sand & Stone


This is a story about two friends who were walking through a forest. At one particular point the two got into an argument and one friend hit the other in the face. The one who was hit was hurt, but without any word he wrote in the sand: "Today my best friend slapped me in the face.’ 

They walked on until they found an oasis where they decided to have a bath.The one who had been hit got stuck in the mud and was drowning but the friend saved him When he came to, he carved in a stone:‘Today my best friend saved my life’ The friend who had hit his best friend then saved him asked:‘After I hit you you wrote this in the sand and now you carved in the stone that I saved you, why did you do this?’ 

The other friend answered:‘When someone hurts us we must write it in the sand where the wind of forgiveness can blow it away’ But if someone does a good deed for you, we have to carve it in stone where no wind can blow it away.’ Learn to write the hurt in the sand and carve your good experiences in stone.  It is said that it takes only a minute to find extraordinary people, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but it takes a whole life to forget them.    

3.02.2012

2012 Calender Designs

While come across in looking for calender ideas. I found this lovely calender 2012 with watercolor illustrations by Le Petit Elefant and lettering/layout by Paper & Type, features a different, monochromatic scene of communication on each seasonal page. Tear along the perforated line after you’re done with each page to create an art print, and come december, there’s a special postcard that you can use to send holiday wishes. 


More ideassss :) :) Sloe Gin Fizz’s 2012 calendar features twelve months of illustrated goodness. The seasonally-inspired illustrations are hand drawn and digitally colored by Sloe Gin Fizz’s own Nicole Ray.


Nature-inspired watercolor illustrations are featured in each month of Bookhou at Home’s 2012 wall calendar, which features an ample amount of white space on either side of the month to jot down notes.


And the fun and colorful Fruit calendar, which features a different fruity-licious illustration for each month of the year. 


images from their respective owners

Will try to attempt one for myself, Wish me good luck! :D

3.01.2012

Gift Bow

I like reading others' blogs. Most of them are very inspiring and these people are very generous to share. Check out this gift bow that made from magazine page. Probably help you to save a few bucks.



In gift wrap emergencies when you've got the present but need some wrapping, here's an idea for turning a magazine page into a bow. There may be better ways to stick this thing together, but I used what I had on hand: staples and adhesive glue dots. Double stick tape should work, too.


Cut a magazine page lengthwise into 9 strips, 3/4" wide. Leave 3 of the strips full length. Cut one inch off 3 of the strips. Cut two inches off 2 of the strips. Cut the last strip down to 3 1/2" long. 


Twist each strip to form a loop at both ends and staple it in the center. Shape the last, short strip into a circle and secure it with a glue dot. 



Use other papers, like a map of your city. Now you can create your own gift bow :)

2.01.2012

I Will Trust You

Would like to sharing song that I adore :) 



I Will Trust You

Written by Elizabeth South & Billy Smiley

You are God forever and ever

Evermore my friend

You're my refuge always in trouble

Guide me to the end


So I will trust you Lord with all my heart

I'll lean on Your Word for understanding

And You will guide me home


Chorus:

I will trust You, I will love You

I wont be afraid anymore

I will trust You, You will always be my strength

I will trust You



Verse 2:

You are love, You died for me 

You heal my weary soul

You lift me up and keep me from falling, forgive and make me whole




Bridge:

You are the Maker of the heavens and the earth

You are the only One who knew me before birth